First, you need to get your basics right. An ejaculation is NOT an orgasm, and neither is it a visual representation of an orgasm being achieved. Strictly speaking, you may have an orgasm without ejaculating, and you may ejaculate without having an orgasm. The internal mechanism of an ejaculation and the need for a refractory period (usually 20 minutes), make it difficult for a man to ejaculate at the press of a button. This does not mean that men are incapable of achieving multiple orgasms. There is a difference between the pleasurable sensations of the orgasm and the physical event of an ejaculation. The trick is to differentiate between the two and to learn to control them both.

Whether you are looking for a little spirituality in your sex life, or you want to learn to control your ejaculation, or you are a bored with your normal chore-like sex life and want to try something different, the benefits of learning to have multiple orgasms are many:

* You will learn more about your own sexual response cycle
* You will be able to read your own body. This skill will help you in many other areas in your life as well
* You will learn that male sexuality is actually quite complex

First and foremost, you must develop your sexual strength.

Breathing basics
Breathe heavily and observe your breathing changes through sexual response, arousal, excitement build up, climax, orgasm, and ejaculation in the exercises that follow.

Kegel exercises
Your Pubococcygeus (PC) muscle is involved in the experience of orgasms, and thus, learning to use it contributes to developing multi-orgasmic skills. Find your PC muscle by intentionally stopping the flow of urine while you pee. Do this several times until you can clearly feel and control the muscle you are using to stop the flow. That’s your PC muscle. Make sure you know what it feels like to squeeze and release it. These are called Kegel exercises.

Discover your “Point of no return”
The moment during sexual excitement after which ejaculation is inevitable has been aptly termed as the Point of no return. The best way to identify this point is to masturbate and pay close attention just as you are about to ejaculate. You may observe a tingling feeling which usually signifies that you are about to hit your Point of no return. Knowing what this feels like will help you know when to pull back from an orgasm.

Explore your sexual response cycle
When you masturbate, observe the following:

* Things that turn you on
* How your body (and breathing) responds to sexual stimulation
* The feeling you get just before the “Point of no return”
* Your body response after orgasm

Practice makes perfect
Practice when you are all alone, and there’s no one around to distract you.

Relax and increase your alertness
As you begin this exercise, relax yourself whichever way you please and try to tune into how your body feels. Run your hands up and down your body; you may touch your genitals or any other part of your body that turns you on, but don’t start masturbating right away.

Masturbate slowly
Masturbate however you wish to, but pay close attention to the energy in your body. Observe places where the energy is concentrated and the direction in which it radiates, if at all. Note the changes in this energy as you approach the climax. Don’t bring yourself to orgasm or ejaculate yet.

Control your “Point of no return”
If you feel as if you’re reaching the point of no return, stop the stimulation and take some deep breaths. Once you’ve held back, you can begin to stimulate yourself again. Do this twice at least. Get a detailed sense of what your point of no return is like, and discover how you can control it.

Your PC muscle and the point of no return
Again as you feel closer to the climax, stop the stimulation as you have before, but this time squeeze your PC muscle and hold it for a few seconds. You can use this technique to prevent yourself from ejaculating. It also creates the opportunity to have several orgasms in a row.

Increase your orgasmic energy flow
When you’re nearing the point of orgasm, observe the build up of energy (heat) in the lower part of your body, and begin to breathe heavily while imagining the energy up towards your head.

Give in to the flow
Finally, let yourself have an orgasm. Use all the techniques learned above including breath, awareness, and squeezing your PC muscle. Let yourself orgasm, but squeeze your PC muscle just as you feel you might ejaculate. As you practice this last step, you may find that you can get to the point of no return, surpass it, and experience a tingly orgasm without even ejaculating. Non-ejaculatory orgasms feel different, but they are pleasurable nonetheless.